Kate finishes another Girls On The Run Season April 26, 2009
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Yesterday, Kate ran her 5K for her Girls On The Run spring season 2009. Our school had 2 groups this time since we had so many girls who wanted to participate. I would say we have about 40 girls in the program this Spring. Kate ran the 5K. It was such a beautiful day. They had balloons, tables with fun and educational information, medals for all the girls, etc. It was really such a joy and a treat. I forgot my camera but I’m going to try to hunt down some pictures. I’m proud of her. She had a tough time running and did a lot of walking but she was super and we both had a great day.
I found this picture from the fall ‘08 GOTR. Howard said she ran a little bit more at the last run but he said he had to push her a lot. He laments that she only does it to socialize but we both know that’s important also. I love their goal: “encourage girls to develop self-respect and healthy lifestyles through running… addressing their physical, emotional, mental, social and spiritual well-being.”

Folic acid, diet soda, and other chemicals April 24, 2009
Posted by irisia in health, mom.Tags: alcoholic, alcoholics, alcoholism, diet soda, diet soda addiction, diet soda and pre-diabetes, diet soda and puffiness, diet soda and swelling, diet soda leading to diabetes, diet soda triggering insulin, folic acid for memory, folic acid for mood, giving up caffeine, giving up diet soda, overworked pancreas, pancreatitis, pre-diabetes, soda and alcoholic nose, soda and red nose, sodium in soda, sugar crashes, withdrawl
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About 6 months ago, I gave up diet soda. I had overindulged in diet soda for many, many years. I loved the carbonation. I loved the fact that I could drink something that tasted like sugar and it wasn’t fattening. I was addicted to it. I enjoyed drinking a soda as I drove. I enjoyed drinking a soda as I worked. I enjoyed drinking a diet soda as I watched television. But, I knew how bad it was for me. I thought about it every day. Then a couple things happened that finally made me want to change.
First and foremost, my brother came to acknowledge his addiction to alcohol. We had always known it but for some strange reason unless the behavior becomes truly reckless or unless they admit it, I think we all try to fool ourselves that it’s really not to that level where we need to label it the a word – “addiction”. But, a couple really bad reckless events happened in a very short period of time and he also landed in the hospital for the second time in as many months for pancreatitis. He could no longer fool us that the pancreatitis was the result of something other than chronic alcoholism. So, after a tremendous amount of prayer, tears, sadness, encouragement to him and yes – hope; I decided to give up diet soda. I realized that what I would go through would be what he would go through. How could I support him if I didn’t really understand what he was going through? How could I understand the daily trials if I did not bear my own cross? I wasn’t going to celebrate my success but I was going to share my struggles and when I fell off the caffeine wagon. I called him periodically to tell him things like “I was driving in the car today and really wanted a soda. It was not because I was thirsty or craved the taste. It was that my body wanted that motion.”. I would tell him how I understood that not only were our bodies thirsting, but even our muscles were aching for that familiar routine.
Anyway, that was October 22nd, 2008. I didn’t have a soda for a few months. Long story short, I still miss the fizz so periodically I will buy a big 20 and have about 2 sips here and there. The big 20 will last me a week. My family has been really good. They don’t harp on me although they do look at me funny every time I take a sip. I can only imagine how my brother feels.
But, here’s the great thing – my face totally changed. I did not realize how puffy and swelled up it was. But as I looked in the mirror, I could see the swelling disappear around my eyes. I could start to see some definition in the end of my nose. My cheeks began to show my cheekbones again. And, here’s a really good one. I had actually started to get the red porous nose that alcoholics have – and it started to go away. It’s almost gone.
Here is a picture from before giving up soda. here is a picture now.
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Here’s another really interesting thing. I started to have sugar crashes all the time. I had started testing my blood sugar to see if what I was experienced was a true sugar crash and it was. It was always a couple hours after having carb foods with soda. My blood sugar would go down in the 70’s. I think the sweet taste of the soda was actually triggering in my body like real sugar would and it was overworking my pancreas making me more susceptible to pre-diabetes. After I stopped drinking soda – no more sugar crashes – none.
My memory has not been very good for about a year. It’s embarrassing how bad it is sometimes. It got so bad that I would make jokes about it to get myself out of a sticky situation where I was acting like an 80-yr old. I didn’t want to talk about it to my doctor because I was embarrassed. I finally asked him and he suggested Folic Acid. I tried it and it works GREAT. Also, my mood seems more buoyant.
Kick the diet soda, grab the folic acid!
This really burns me up. Can’t get the baseball parents and families to stop smoking and littering April 22, 2009
Posted by irisia in mom, this makes me REALLY angry!.Tags: athletic association, athletics, baseball, baseball parents, kids athletics, littering, parents smoking, ridiculous parents, rude smokers, sports parents, tough parents
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I’m on the board of the town athletic association. It’s currently in my sport’s off-season but I still go to the board meetings to try to support the really strong baseball program. We are lucky that Kate’s school is host to our athletic association’s baseball program. And, I am very lucky that I live right behind the school – a hop, skip, and a short trail away.
This is my first year on the board of the Athletic Association so it’s my first chance to voice my opinion about the terrible issues with littering and smoking at the ball fields during ball season. There are 2 ball fields that get used and I am not kidding, I have gone around after a weekend of ball games and picked up several garbage bags full of litter and cigarette butts. The parents, families, fans of the players literally just throw their bottles, cans, cups, plates, and wrappers right on the ground. There are garbage cans not even a stones throw away and they just drop their trash to the ground. The trash drops the trash.
So, smoking is strictly prohibited on the school grounds. The baseball fans/parents (whoever comes to watch the game) still smoke as much as they like. Sometimes they step a few paces from the ballfields or they stand near their car but they still smoke in a smoking prohibited area. Then, worse! They throw the butts on the ground. The butts throw the butts. Why are smokers so rude? How do they have so much gall?
So, at the Athletic Association meeting last week, I proposed that we do a couple things to stop the problem. Here’s where it gets interesting:
I proposed:
1) that we have a mandatory trash clean up day with all ball players. Most likely if they have to clean up their own trash, they’ll have a better appreciation of what people do behind them.
answer: no we can’t do that
2) that if someone reports to a coach that one of the parents from their team was smoking – then the player does not play the next game.
answer: we will get sued. CAN YOU BELIEVE THIS? CAN YOU BELIEVE THIS? So, what they’re saying is that smoking is prohibited and if we try to punish the child whose parent smokes, then that parent can sue us because their kid sat out a game because the parent can’t follow rules. What in the heck has this world come to? The trash can throw the trash and the butts can drop the butts but the rest of us just have to sit around and watch them or the trashy lowlifes will sue us.
This is the type of crap that makes the good folks not want to participate in programs and then the programs go downhill. How can we ever expect to grow as an organization unless we can have what it takes to enforce rules and ask humans to act like human beings and not like animals?
I Finally read Twilight. Loved it! Here’s what I love. April 18, 2009
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When my early 40-something friend came over ranting and raving about Twilight, I thought maybe there was something to it. I had heard so much about it but I’m just not into the whole goth, vampire thing. It seems like the whole vampire thing is so big right now. So I bought the book on amazon.com. I LOVE Amazon. They’re so good to me. I buy this free 2-day shipping program called their Prime Membership for $79.00 each year. Then, I get free 2-day shipping all year long. So, I guess I need to place 10 orders or so before it starts paying for itself. But, it was a master-minded marketing ploy because I shop there all the time knowing I have the free 2-day shipping. I was able to snatch up the Twilight paperback for only $6.99. I read it in a weekend. it’s 500 pages and I couldn’t get enough!!
My friend said that this is a book that both mothers and daughters could read. I thought, pshaw, there’s no way that it would equally appeal to mothers and daughters and still be appropriate for daughters. Not that it takes filth to appeal to mothers, but a little smut never hurts:). Indeed it is.
So here is what’s so wonderful.
1) It’s an old fashioned love story.
He has to quell his animal instincts in order to be with her. She has to love him for who he really is to be with him. Isn’t that the classic story of teen love? Nowadays, that’s not the classic story. Our girls are growing up too quickly. It all becomes about what base they’ve gotten to or how far they will go. In the entire 500-page first book, the characters never do more than touch lips with each other. They hold hands, touch each others hands and such and the writing transforms those experiences into the most wonderful experiences. Go Stephanie Meyer. I bought book 3 along with book 2 because I didn’t want to be out of Twilight series books for long!!
2) There’s no drama!!!!
He doesn’t play games. She doesn’t play games. No drama. Period. I can’t really remember relationships without drama. Maybe it’s just that the buzz word drama that’s used so often now makes it seem like the level of drama is ever escalating. But, it does certainly feel that way. Stephanie Meyer stayed away from this.
3) It’s clean.
I said it in point 1 and I’ll say it again but the romance is all emotional. It’s not a physical romance at all. Their love appears and feels greater than any other teen love affair – and the two main characters barely even kiss. How wonderful is that?
I had not watched the movie before reading the book. We’re watching American Idol now and all I could picture with the main characters was Allison Iraheta and Adam Lambert. I watched the movie yesterday and the characters couldn’t look any more different from Allison and Adam but Allison and Adam could make a great Bella and Edward.
I never thought I’d find a good eye product – and it’s on sale this week at CVS April 5, 2009
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I found this line of skin products at CVS and it truly has the BEST eye cream ever. I’m only 41 but either by genetics or diet or something, the skin over my eyes has started to sag down onto my eyelids and under my eyes, I have this annoying puffiness. I know that all these beauty products are such hype but I finally laid out a little cash for a beauty product – $15.99 – which for me is a big spend to try a beauty product. It is amazing. I think the line is only sold at CVS. It’s called Skin Effects by Dr. Jeffrey Dover. I always wait until CVS has extra bucks specials on it to stock up. Usually with their specials, if you buy $20/worth, you get $5 in extra bucks. This week (April 5-11/09), they have $10 in extra bucks if you buy $30 worth.
Here’s the best eye product ever: Skin Effects Cell 2 Cell Anti-Aging Eye Treatment

I’ve tried a couple other products. Here’s the other really good one. Skin Effects Resurfacing Effects Skin Renewal System
I’ve never gone for a facial. But, I thought I would buy a facial product from the line that makes my miracle eye cream and this set is great. It’s a scrub that you use and then there is a healing cream that you put on after you have let the scrub work for a minute or two. It makes my skin really vibrant and radiant. I half expect people to ask me if I’m with child after using it because it really does work great.
Here’s the product from the line that I don’t like. I don’t like this one at all – the Skin Effects Cell 2 Cell Continuous Action Anti-Wrinkle Care. It’s one of the more expensive products at $19.99 and it’s very greasy feeling and doesn’t seem to have any effect on moisturizing my face. I don’t use it at all which is a big disappointment.
This is SO sweet. Kate makes me a .PPT to say sorry April 4, 2009
Posted by irisia in kate, mom.Tags: daughters apologize, funny spelling mistakes, funny spelling mistakes kids, kids apologize, kids spelling mistakes
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The last few weeks with Kate have been rough. She’s only 8 but she has been acting spoiled and a little rotten. He has not been grateful and she has said some things that are just very shallow and disappointing. So I’ve been getting on her case. Some times I’ll ask her to apologize. Some times I’ll tell her it was wrong. But, it’s been so many times that half the time, I’ve just been calling her bratty or sassy and telling her I’m disappointed in her. She’s SUCH a sensitive child so the fact that she has not been phased by me going as far as calling her bratty really surprised me.
So this morning, she was sitting in the office working on the computer. She kept telling me not to come in. Turns out, she made a PowerPoint presentation that was beautiful. It had all this beautiful clip-art with hearts and pictures of moms and daughters. The very best part was the last page:

Periodically, I will tell the kids that I carried them in my womb for NINE LONG MONTHS. I guess Kate did not know how to spell womb. I love the beautiful way she spelled it. Matt came by and told her to hit the spell check. I told him, not on his life. She’s only 8 and this is coming totally from the heart. That’s what makes it even more endearing.
When the cat’s away, the little mice will play – WITH MY CAMERA! April 4, 2009
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I love when I go to download pictures from my digital camera to my computer and I find *surprises* on my camera. Periodically, the kids take photos and videos with my camera and judging from the looks of these, this might be how they would look when I ask them why they were using my digital camera without my consent.
Matt, why did you do that?
What! How could you say that.
Kate, did you take pictures with my camera without asking me?

Huh? I can’t hear you. I can’t hear you. I can’t hear you.
Jack, did you take these pictures with my camera without asking me?

What me? Why do I (whine) always get blamed for stuff? Just because Matt and Kate obviously aren’t holding the camera, and just because I obviously AM holding the camera, you’re just blaming me because I’m having a bad hair day! You don’t care about my hair!
I don’t think I’m qualified to be a teen’s mom April 4, 2009
Posted by irisia in mom.Tags: teen mom, teen parenting, managing teens, teen instruction manual, kids being dared, kids taking dares, parent over-reacing, peer pressure, kids taking a dare
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I hear so many times that new parents can’t believe they are sent home from the hospital with their first baby and they don’t even know how to change a diaper. That never concerned me. But, I do want the instruction manual on being a teen’s mom. I had an email from a teacher this week that I needed to address and it was really hard.
The teacher emailed me this week for the second time about a behavior “incident”. The first one was benign. But this one was not. It wasn’t catastrophic but it was one of those times that really made me ask myself how well I know my child and how could my child have done this. I know I over-reacted because everyone does things they shouldn’t do and makes mistakes. I know we will look back at so many things they’ve done as teens – when they are adults – and laugh that I made such a big deal about it or laugh that they did something so stupid.
But, in the course of the conversation about what happened, I found out it happened as a result of a dare! This makes it worse than just making a bad decision. It was making a bad decision to prove stupidity to someone irrelevant. This wasn’t even a dare from a cool kid or a nemesis whose dare might have substantially increased the peer pressure or whose successful result would substantially elevate social status on the “cool kid but really a moron” list. OK, deep breath.
I know I overreact. I know overreacting is not good for anyone. I know this is so small in the scheme of things. I just really don’t want to have to deal with these teen mom issues. They hurt me so much. When they say “this will hurt me more than it hurts you”, I know what they mean.
I think Jack & I came up with a great theme for Briar Rose by Jane Yolen April 3, 2009
Posted by irisia in books, jack.Tags: briar rose, briar rose theme, dreaded lecture, I am my father, i am my mother, I thought I would never say that to my kids, jane yolen study guide, parent lecture, parent talk, what my parents said
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I guess I can see why Howard says my lectures to the kids are torturous because when I was young, I would give anything not to get the torturous lecture from my father. What was even worse when when the dreaded lecture started leading him to these vast sweeping conclusions that I had been “bad” or “swayed perilously off the path” or worse yet, “disappointed him so many times recently that he was losing faith in my integrity”. So here I come again. From saying “I will never use that line on my children” or “I will never do that to my kids” to being smack dab in the middle of it and the words just come spilling out of my mouth. “I just don’t know about you lately. What will be next?” But this event this week justifies a post of its own for sure.
So what’s worse than the lecture? – Da du dum… The mother-child whiteboarding session -spearheaded by da mom.
Howard says something that inspires bone-chilling fear is me getting out the white board marker. Even worse, a couple different color markers, the eraser, and erasing a vast amount of space on the oversized white board to make room for a fantastic brain-storming session or overly long explanation. I love white boards. I wish my whole office was covered in them!
So last night Jack was writing his all-important book review on Briar Rose. He is doing a Holocaust section in Social Studies and he had to read an entire book. Jack is NOT one of my readers so this was, I’m sure, quite torturous. He and I were both working in the office on different computers. He started to type on his paper that there wasn’t much of a theme in Briar Rose! Gasp! How could he even say that. Worse, how could he read such a wonderful book and fail to grasp the theme. So, when I started to question him about it, he grasped at a couple could-be themes thinking he would get by easily with those lame ideas for themes. Since the book revolves around a fairy tale, he spits out “fairy tales do come true” and a couple other ill-thought-out grasps for a quick answer.
So, I got out the giant white board and said “let’s think out loud and take some notes”. In Jack’s mind – I will never mention to Mom again that there was no theme. His eyes rolled back in his head and he flopped his back to the back of his chair in utter despair that we would have a brain-storming session on his book theme.
But, in fact, it didn’t take long and we together came up with what sounds like a great theme. I’d love to hear some evaluation to see if we got it right. But we came up with:
Behind every story are meaningful events, and even more meaningful realities. Huh. Not bad.